Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Our 1st UAB Visit

Yesterday was our first visit with the Gynecological Oncologist at UAB that specializes with Ovarian Carcinoma.  We weren't sure what to expect and was just praying for a different experience than the one we had week before last.

Thankfully it was VERY easy to find AND they have Valet parking! Whoop Whoop! Which is free might I add (we will still tip of course) for chemo patients.  I think that is wonderful.

We got there about 40 minutes early and they were pretty much right on time with calling Mom back.  The visit was very thorough.  I went back with her initially because she had to have some additional exams.  Once that was all over the nurse got Kyle, Tyler, and my Uncle and brought them back.  They were incredibly nice.

Dr. Warner K. Huh was awesome.  He made sure we knew that he would not be sugar coating anything for us because that ends up hurting us and him.  He will always tell us like it is.

On a scale of 1-5 of fast growing cancer and 5 being the fastest, she has a 4-5 type.  That concerned him a lot because of her young age and it being so fast and so rare.  That only means that she has to be treated aggressively.  There are only 3 places in Alabama that offers the treatment that she needs and that is Birmingham, Mobile, and Huntsville.  So we will stick with Birmingham.

He made sure she understood that she will lose her hair.  It's not a you may or may not... with this treatment, you will.

She has to have an IP/IV which is Intraperitoneal Chemothereapy and will also receive chemo through an IV in her veins.  She will have to have a surgical procedure to have the IP/IV inserted.  Hopefully she won't have to have an additional port put in her chest (like a lot of chemo patients do) and will be able to receive the other through a regular I.V.  That is just precaution not to have to have 2 small procedures to insert ports.

She will have to go one day one week for an all day treatment.  Then will go one day the next week for half a day treatment and then will have the next week off.  Those two treatments and the week off equal one complete cycle.  So every 21 days you start over.  She will have 6 total cycles which is 12 treatments and comes to about 5 months.  Because of how aggressive this has to be handled, he said 25% of women do not finish it (due to the side effects).  Granted, most of those women are a good bit older than mom too.  Average age he said was 70.  But with her being so young, he feels certain she will be able to finish and handle the side effects.

Dr Huh has been practicing Intraperitoneal Chemothereapy for 6 years now.  It has been proven to lengthen the life of an Ovarian Cancer patient by 16 months verses those that chose to just have another form of treatment.

They had not received the CT scan results from the one we had a week ago yesterday.  So unfortunately we were not able to go over those results.  He does want to do another CT scan of all of her abdomen for two reasons.  One is because he did not perform her surgery so he needs a scan to basically familiarize himself with "what's in there".... so to speak.  The second reason is he was concerned because her surgery was from the belly button down.  He is concerned about what might be in the upper part of her abdomen.  The only thing with CT Scans is they can be very harmful to your kidneys.  Since she had one last week, we have to wait until next week to have the one he wants so that her kidney will not risk being harmed.

The compassion that the entire staff showed is unbelievable.  We got a tour of the facility and got to see and speak to patients that were receiving chemo.  One lady was actually having her first IP/IV treatment for Ovarian Cancer.  They explained to us that they will make it as comfortable as possible for Mom.  They keep any snacks she may want on hand, drinks, she can have outside food.  Anything at all.  They have TVs for them to watch, wifi, warm blankets, pillows, and one lady was even knitting.

I will admit that I teared up several times, but got my composure together quickly.  I try so hard not to cry in front of Mom.  While Mom was talking to the lady receiving the treatment, Kyle and my Uncle Sonny told us they would be back.   I was not emotionally prepared to see them at the desk buying bracelets and car magnets.... AND my emotions got the best of me.  I started crying and just had to walk away.  I walked to the hall and Kyle followed me.... just hugging and comforting me.  I really didn't mean to lose it.  Just A LOT to take in.  I saw a nurse walk by me, but I didn't think she noticed me.... but she came back with a hand full of tissues and a hug.  And then another lady gave me a hug and before we left another nurse said, "I love hugs..." and gave me one.  Mom said, "I wonder if they thought you were the patient"? I know they knew Mom was the patient, I just think they saw a daughter that was overwhelmed by her moms life in their hands and were being compassionate.

When we left we had a fabulous late lunch at The Cheesecake Factory. 


I am sorry Olive Garden, but this is the BEST Chicken Alfredo.... EVER!

Kyle's pizza and salad :)

Tyler's pick... forget what it was

.... and that would be a red velvet white chocolate cheesecake, snickers cheesecake, macadamia nut cheesecake, smores cheesecake, & I forget the name of the other one but it tasted like a german chocolate to me.

The absolute BEST strawberry lemonade!
**We were very pleased with our meeting and we are so ready to get things started.  Please continue to pray for Mom to have the strength she needs to beat this. She is in very good spirits and can absolutely do this.

Sunday, February 23, 2014

Wonderful Weekend

 We had a fabulous weekend!  BUT... before I get to that, gonna share some pics from the end of last week.
 Letter G=
Grass

Glasses

Gun

Game
 Soph has gotten to wear she will just randomly start singing... "Hey Mickey you're so fine.... "

 Thursday night I went to dinner with my sweet friend, Meredith.  We had a wonderful moms night... or hour haha.  I was gone for exactly 1 hour 15 minutes.... left KC and kiddos home.  When I got home I was hugging all of them and glanced over at the fridge to find SLIME streaming down..... Babee took the kiddos to the dollar store and Sophie picked out slime for her treat of all things.... and how on earth Kyle was with them for 1  hour 15 minutes and managed to miss slime on the fridge, floor, etc.... I have no clue.  We couldn't help but laugh about it....

Heidi's sweet note she left for me :)!! She leaves things like this all the time.  So thankful she is mine.

Sophie hung out with Kyle Friday morning while I made copies.  They worked on the air conditioner :)))!

Kman had a field trip Friday to the bank.  So fun!

A moment in Daddy's shoes :)!
 Hank came home with us Friday from school and we had a wonderful time.  Lots of scooter ridings, and bike rides. 




 Heidi had a total of 4 wrecks :((!!! The 4th one really did it.....
 Friday night we went to the Tisdales for supper.  They live out in the country, so when we were almost at their house we let Kman help drive :)!

 Sweet Mollie Mae.....

 Heidi didn't feel good after her banged up legs and arms, so she wanted to chill at Babee's while we went.  Mom sent me this picture not long after Heidi was there.... she was a tired baby girl. 

Baby girl stood all she could stand after all our Phase 10 fun :)!
 Since Babee still can't pick the kids up (physically) we picked Heidi up on our way home. 

Saturday morning we met Mom at Rock Star Nails and had us a WONDERFUL pedicure.  They reserved it for us so it was only the 4 of us in there.... so nice.




It was her first one and she absolutely loved it.

Soph drying her toes
 I can honestly say it was a much needed relaxing morning.
 While we had pedicures, the boys hung out with Tad & Brayden and they attempted to kill anything they could find.  HA!
 After lunch with Babee & KyKy we headed to MeMe's house.  Babies crashed on the way of course....
 We took our bikes and had such a nice bike ride around MeMe's. 

....... and some Dodge-ball fun!
MeMe's pretty Mardi Gras table.
 While Kyle grilled, we hung out on her back porch.  It was so nice.
He was writing his name with the stick and water from the pool cover.



All of MeMe's grands.....
 We had a wonderful day at church today and spent the afternoon at Papa & Nana's.

Heidi's battle wounds look much better today....

Sophie hanging out with her BFF Grandmama.
 .... and last but not least, Heidi and I did our homemade face mask tonight.  Pinterest inspired of course.  2 egg whites and 1 tsp lemon juice. 

Thursday, February 20, 2014

Putting Your Husband Where Your Heart Is....

Continuing our study with Danny Akin.
 
*Be the irresistible wife that he deserves.

Eph 5:21-24

HONOR HIM WITH YOUR SUBMISSION (v 21)
* Out of respect of God it is okay for a woman to say "No" to her husband when it is:
Illegal, Immoral, Unethical, & Unbiblical
*If the saved woman doesn't have a saved husband, you can still  win him over by your actions.  Don't "nag" him into The Kingdom.

HOW A WIFE CAN BE A BLESSING TO HER HUSBAND:
(1) Give him your admiration & respect.
*Let him know you love him, are proud of him, & believe in him.

~~~~A GREAT WOMAN CAN TAKE A MEDIOCRE MAN & PULL HIM UP!!!! (As well as a not so great woman can take a great man & pull him down)

(2) Providing sexual fullfillment.
* The #1 thing most men say they want from their wife.
* The #2 thing feeds from #1.  It hurts the man if he doesn't feel he is satisfying his wife's needs.
*It is a great gift to be enjoyed in unity.

The difference in "intimacy" in a Man & Woman:
Men are like microwaves.
Women are like crockpots.

- Men are creatures of sight.  Like a Microwave a man can heat up & BOOM he is ready.
- Women come from the heart & ear.  They have to simmer.... and simmer.... & sometimes simmer some more.

* He conducted a survey on What happy couples say about sex:
(1) Sex is a priority.  It is important to them.
(2) Make time for sex.
(3) Meeting each others needs.
(4) Know how to play & foreplay in and out of bed.
(5) Know how to talk to each other.
(6) The relationship is about giving not getting.
(7) Know how to laugh.
(8) Cherish each other as a precious gift from God.

~~ By having all 8 of those, it will help your marriage.

(3) Bless your husband by creating a good home.
* If Mama aint happy aint no body happy.  
* A good godly woman can have a bad day.
* Proverbs 9:13 (A foolish woman is clamourous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing). A Man would rather live anywhere than with a constant nagging wife.

Women have anywhere from 20,000-25,000 words a day.
Men have 10,000-12,000 words a day.

* If a nagging woman doesn't run a man off, he most likely becomes a work-aholic and stays away.  They'll fight or flight.

(4) Strive to be an attractive wife.
* Inside & Out
* Let your husband be pleased & proud of you at the home & outside the home.
* Pretty lady inside is gorgeous outside.
* Wear your hair & makeup the way he likes it.  (I know with us, I am constantly asking Kyle how he likes my hair to be.... and everytime he says he doesn't care.  He thinks I am beautiful with short hair, long hair, however I want to wear it.)
IN YOUR MARRIAGE, WORK TO BECOME EACH OTHERS BEST FRIEND.
* Best friends don't give up.
*Best friends want to be together and hang out.

*Men need other men friends.......but the main core is being BEST FRIENDS with his wife.