Thursday, February 20, 2014

Putting Your Husband Where Your Heart Is....

Continuing our study with Danny Akin.
 
*Be the irresistible wife that he deserves.

Eph 5:21-24

HONOR HIM WITH YOUR SUBMISSION (v 21)
* Out of respect of God it is okay for a woman to say "No" to her husband when it is:
Illegal, Immoral, Unethical, & Unbiblical
*If the saved woman doesn't have a saved husband, you can still  win him over by your actions.  Don't "nag" him into The Kingdom.

HOW A WIFE CAN BE A BLESSING TO HER HUSBAND:
(1) Give him your admiration & respect.
*Let him know you love him, are proud of him, & believe in him.

~~~~A GREAT WOMAN CAN TAKE A MEDIOCRE MAN & PULL HIM UP!!!! (As well as a not so great woman can take a great man & pull him down)

(2) Providing sexual fullfillment.
* The #1 thing most men say they want from their wife.
* The #2 thing feeds from #1.  It hurts the man if he doesn't feel he is satisfying his wife's needs.
*It is a great gift to be enjoyed in unity.

The difference in "intimacy" in a Man & Woman:
Men are like microwaves.
Women are like crockpots.

- Men are creatures of sight.  Like a Microwave a man can heat up & BOOM he is ready.
- Women come from the heart & ear.  They have to simmer.... and simmer.... & sometimes simmer some more.

* He conducted a survey on What happy couples say about sex:
(1) Sex is a priority.  It is important to them.
(2) Make time for sex.
(3) Meeting each others needs.
(4) Know how to play & foreplay in and out of bed.
(5) Know how to talk to each other.
(6) The relationship is about giving not getting.
(7) Know how to laugh.
(8) Cherish each other as a precious gift from God.

~~ By having all 8 of those, it will help your marriage.

(3) Bless your husband by creating a good home.
* If Mama aint happy aint no body happy.  
* A good godly woman can have a bad day.
* Proverbs 9:13 (A foolish woman is clamourous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing). A Man would rather live anywhere than with a constant nagging wife.

Women have anywhere from 20,000-25,000 words a day.
Men have 10,000-12,000 words a day.

* If a nagging woman doesn't run a man off, he most likely becomes a work-aholic and stays away.  They'll fight or flight.

(4) Strive to be an attractive wife.
* Inside & Out
* Let your husband be pleased & proud of you at the home & outside the home.
* Pretty lady inside is gorgeous outside.
* Wear your hair & makeup the way he likes it.  (I know with us, I am constantly asking Kyle how he likes my hair to be.... and everytime he says he doesn't care.  He thinks I am beautiful with short hair, long hair, however I want to wear it.)
IN YOUR MARRIAGE, WORK TO BECOME EACH OTHERS BEST FRIEND.
* Best friends don't give up.
*Best friends want to be together and hang out.

*Men need other men friends.......but the main core is being BEST FRIENDS with his wife.

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